On Gifts

It’s no secret: I pride myself on being a terrific gift-giver. Now whether that is actually true, or whether the recipients of my gifts are just stupendously generous in flattering my ego, who knows! Either way, gift-giving and receiving as one of my biggest love languages can get quite tricky.

Irenekly - On Gifts

Take this vase for example. Gifted to my momma for her 50th birthday, I was confident she would totally love it. She loves flowers, loves pretty things, and loves me – there was no room for failure. But that last bit, the loving me part, is what makes my gifts to her the most precious. More than the fact that she now had a hand-crafted Heath ceramics vase, she was ecstatic to receive this gift and every single one of my gifts to her because they were an extension of myself. This open-arms reception is something I am just barely beginning to understand as I realize the skewed ways in which I receive gifts from others.

Without going into the nitty gritty, a certain gentleman made an extravagant gesture to celebrate our two years of dating, and it was so difficult for me to fully receive it. Here he was, with an extremely thoughtful and sweet gift, and I could only say, “Oh dear me no, it’s too much!” In a subtle but real way, my inability to receive at that point became an inability to receive him – which is the last thing I intended, but sadly inflicted. Thankfully, Garrett keeps his heart and ears open, even when my flaws rear their ugly heads.

Turning gift-giving and receiving into celebrating me, twice over, rather than being able to celebrate the other and receiving the other’s love is so terrible! Though stated to be a love language, it’s not impervious to perilous selfishness that quickly shades it to become something other than love. Oh, to learn from more selfless givers and receivers like my momma (and Garrett, and wait, all my inspirational beloveds), and be willing to receive graciously and freely outside my own agenda! Conclusion: love the gift because of the giver.

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Gifts for the Gent

gifts for the gent
Seeing as Thanksgiving is around the corner which means Christmas is around the other corner, I thought I could start a gifts series. The first one up, for the lucky gentleman in your life! Mine’s definitely a lucky one, even if none of these gifts actually make it under his tree due to a limited budget…but still! It’s the thought that counts, right?

Billykirk satchel bag  – A handsome leather bag that can be carried on his handsome manly shoulder to class, to work, on business trips.
Sigh No More – A vinyl of  a favorite album from one of our favorite bands, Mumford and Sons. (Also talked about here). Something about vinyl records that feel like real music, eh?
New Balance 574 In Blue – My man loves his New Balance sneakers, or NB as he likes to call them, and has worn them down to where it’s time for a new pair. I’m loving the brown suede-y details on these ones.
Timex Weekender In Olive – So, he’s a naturally punctual man, but how about a watch to make him a snazzy and even more naturally punctual man? I believe these Timex Weekender watches have interchangeable straps too, which could be fun to keep all them options open. Hot pink for the next purchase maybe.
Red Wing Shoes Mink Oil  – The cold and wet season’s coming, and this mink oil for leather shoes might be the perfect thing to keep your man’s kicks nicely smooth and waterproof. Plus, the packaging is too good.
Zebra Pen  – These last two gift ideas are related. Bring out that writer in him (aka get him to write you love poems) with these smooth pens that will have smooth words coming out from them to make you swoon.
Field Notes Steno – Take the words on the go and look good while doing it!